Emotional Interference

This is a special podcast. My heart's cry is to share information that will help others to be all that they choose to become in this world. Did you know that you are a tri-part being? You are a spirit, have a soul, and live in a body. You were created for greatness and made in the image of God. This is a long podcast today...hope it brings you some knowledge and empowers you to rise above what you think or feel and dive into searching out what God says about it. 

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Welcome to Resilient Living Podcast. I am your host, Tara Lynn Minifield, excited for another opportunity to talk about all things resilience. Well, today is going to be a long podcast. I have a lot to say. The title of this podcast is Emotional Interference. So let me just say before we get going that there may be some sensitive information that you might want to guard those listening ears that are around you. So I would recommend that you excuse the children or yourself out of previews that they don't have to listen or hear any of the things that we're going to be talking about. Now, saying that. All of the information that I am sharing is definitely just high-level information that has an explanation. It's definitely my views, my opinion. Believe in God, our Heavenly Father. And you also have to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. That means you believe that God created Jesus, He came to earth in a human form, and He died for our sins in order so that we can be reconciled back to God. That means one day when we leave this earth, our spirit will return to heaven where I believe we were created. Once you do that, your spirit is automatically connected to the Lord and therefore the relationship with him continues to develop. You will continue to learn about the Word of God, be in a Bible-based church where you start learning about all the things that we can do in this life and the authority that we have within our identity in God. So that's your spirit. We also have with inside of us a soul. And the soul is comprised of our intellect, our emotions, our intelligence, and all of that. So our soul is the one that you'll hear more times when we talk about biblical things that people need to renew their mind or renew their soul. And our constant walk here on this earth is for us to allow the spirit to be the authority and the leading objective with everything that we do and allow our soul to conform to what God has said in his word and what we learn in the teachings that we go through and situations and circumstances. Most definitely any resilience comes and falls under our spirit. by part being, we have interactions between those three parts of our body all the time. Say, for instance, you get up in the morning and you have a desire to go to the gym and work out. You are listening to your spirit, conforming your soul, and acting out your body, what you should be doing to take care of your body. And so daily interaction with everyone that we deal with, we primarily deal with our soul. And so our soul is the main focus of what we want to talk to, talk about and talk to today. We are really going to be talking about emotional interference. My personal opinion is, is that now there are a group of people, people that believe and understand their spirits. but are confused and being distracted within their emotions to not keep the connection of spirit, soul, and body. And this I'm labeling emotional interference. A lot of the emotional interference that I am witnessing or I'm seeing often takes the form of depression or anxiety or or any mental health challenges that people go through, people are questioning their psyche. They're questioning their self-worth. They're questioning and losing hope and safety based on the solutions that their intellect is providing them rather than what the Word of God is saying. Now, there are going to be so many scriptures that I'm going to reference today that I will actually leave a transcript so that you can go back and study them for yourselves. Because one thing I don't want to do is just because this is my opinion and my belief, I want you to get that understanding for yourself. And the best thing I can do is absolutely direct you to the word of God that as a believer we stand on and we know. And even some of you that are not Christians, that understand and believe in a higher power or a universe, you will be able to take this information and use it as a guide for you to really make your point. Because in any deductive reasoning, you know, you have a point of view that allows you to interpret what your opinion is, and then you have faith to make what your belief becomes after you review the information. So, a lot of people in this emotional interference, they have a lot of anxiety, depression, as I mentioned, a lot of things that come against them. And even with their relationship with God, people can become angry with God because of the makeup of how they are. in the emotions that they feel, in the understanding that they have, in the projection of what they are feeling, people will get caught up and turn away from God because they're angry, because there's a lack of understanding of who they authentically are and their identity in God. And they feel that solutions are not available for them, that they don't feel understood or they don't feel appreciated with how their emotions or their feelings are not being acknowledged in anything that's going on. And those people that often deal with people that have more emotional strain and problems often feel guilt of not understanding what it is that they can do to help them in that situation. So it becomes all very confusing, but I'll tell you more than confusing, it becomes a distraction from what God absolutely intended for us to believe and for us to do. And it becomes a lot of time spent stealing and thinking rather than believing and learning what it is that you need to do and what it is you do to know. Now, I will tell you that it's very personal for me, this podcast, because I have, you know, I have friends and I have family that continue to go through different situations that they label how they're feeling based on diagnosis and based on different labels that are out there that are trending in our environment. Often, we'll see a lot of families go through the controversy of any labels like ADHD or hyperactivity or autism that cause people to believe or feel that based on that diagnosis and symptoms of that diagnosis, that they have to accept what someone is saying about them and where they are. My opinion is that a diagnosis absolutely can be a positive thing. A diagnosis, in my opinion, is the symptoms and expectation of what's actually happening right there with that person. It doesn't mean that you have to stay within that diagnosis. Again, I'll use myself as the example. There have been many times But I have gone to the doctor and the doctor has said, you know what, if you do not get it together, you will have diabetes. Diabetes is something that basically ran in my family. Or rather, let me say it this way. There have been traits within my family line that the symptoms of diabetes showed up. And I have a doctor telling me based on my blood work, based on my A1C levels, all of that, that if I don't make choices that are going to be to help my health, that I will be moving into that same category where that diagnosis will become the real application in my life of what I'm living. So that diagnosis of where I am gives me an opportunity to change where I am in order to move away from what I don't want to happen. So now let me be clear. I don't believe that every diagnosis is so easy to move away from. But what I do believe is that every diagnosis gives us the opportunity to make changes in order to align ourselves the way that God originally created us, rather than accepting what's being applied with the sum total result of what's being seen. And so stay with me, because that really takes faith to believe beyond what a doctor or health professional is telling you. And I'm not asking you to disregard every diagnosis or medical information. I think that doctors are crucial, that the facts that they give us are absolutely essential. But more than the facts, I believe the faith that we develop in order to conquer or overcome the facts become the faith that we need in order for us to live healthier lives. So my ask of you is that when you get diagnosis, when you get labels, when you get these things that people are telling you right here and the state that you're in, absolutely, this is definitively what it is you need to believe. That you know that that's an opportunity for you to dive back into the spirit part of your being and research and understand what God says about that. before you believe anything else. You know, I've seen many people that have been diagnosed with cancer and that diagnosis of cancer can either become a curse or it can become an opportunity for the blessings to show up. And more times than not, I'm going to be on the side of believing what God can do with what I bring to him rather than accepting what someone else says. So therefore, we have a lot of emotional interference. You know, although I'm talking about diagnosis and I'm talking about all the things and the facts and the faith that we need to develop, it doesn't necessarily have to be a medical situation or a diagnosis that you have to stop believing in in order for you to have the best health or being or position in your life. There are a lot of things based on the situations and circumstances that we are a part of, that if we listen to what we came from and allow that to create what it is that we stay in, we will continue to stay in a level of thing and never have the dreams, the visions, the emotions, or the ambition to get beyond where we are. There are a lot of people that are listening that are feeling what it is that I'm saying. And there are a lot of people that can look back now of where I was to see where I am and believe where I'm going. And see, although I love the topic of resilience, resilience doesn't make the difference until you actually take credit for what your story does and what you've overcome in your life. And so, Emotional appearance is absolutely a distraction from who you are, what you have, and what you're believing for. It actually becomes a rudder or something that makes you stay stuck. You stay stuck in the diagnosis or in the medication. You stay stuck in this particular area and not move forward to all of what's available for you. And I think that's where my frustration comes in because sometimes I can't be stuck. I can't be stuck because in the middle of me being stuck, what it is, the mark that I want to leave on this life, those that love me, those that are watching me, those that are believing with me, they will stay stuck with me unless they have a foundation beyond the emotional interference that I'm experiencing. Now, do I claim that I've always had emotional intelligence and not emotional interference? Absolutely not. I think in this life, we have a lot of ebbs and flows of situations that happen to us and what we have to get really good at and what I've learned to get better at is processing that situation for what it is. I've learned as I've gotten older how objective I really, truly need to be in situations. A lot of times, situations are not happening to us. We are going through something, but unless we have the vision to see that we're going through something, we're not able to acknowledge where we're going. We're just stuck in the middle of what it feels like, a great temporary emotion. that you can have empathy for people, but unless you infuse the faith of who they are and help them see the identity of what they have, that empathy will be a temporary band-aid that has to be taken off in order for them to get the grit of who they authentically are and walk out that identity here on earth. There are absolutely times for us to be empathetic. There are times that our empathy can really help us take our resources in order to help others. But if we're not using or tapped into our own identity, we can get lost in the helping of others and not empowered by what's available for them to empower others. And I'm seeing a lot of it around us because in this world of confusion as far as political position, in this world where we're confused about having someone tell us something and for us to receive dishonest information and yet try to strive to live the truth, that this confusion happens where we don't even really know where to stand on what side of what. And the cure to all of that is knowing who you are and whose you are in order to stand in the authenticity of you lining up with your spirit, your soul, and body to be a vessel that's here to be used by God on this earth to make a difference. And so emotional interference does not have the time, the patience, or the place. Now, let's make sure that I'm clear. The emotions that I'm talking about, we all have emotions. It's the interpretation of the emotions that become a challenge. You can be so empathetic in your feelings and in your emotions that you become really stagnant and not able to help others because out of a fear of how you're going to be interpreted, how you're being received, how you are functioning becomes a hindrance to you even being actively participating in life. Or, you can have a facade of you becoming one person or a different person based on the situation that you're in. And my heart's cry is for people to be authentic enough to know where they are and true enough to be able to be objective to see what they need in order to move in the right direction for you continue to learn more about how you are absolutely authentically created by God. We really don't have time for the emotional interference because that actually will become louder than anything else that we do, that we say, because it's attached to your feelings and what you think about a situation. Ask yourself these questions. If I'm always in a situation where I feel as if I'm being attacked, am I really being attacked? If I'm in a situation where I feel as if I am not empowered to be able to do or have more, am I really not being empowered or is that just my perception? Am I helping others out of a genuine concern for helping others or I'm masking the feelings, the interpretation? the goals of what I have and using the help of others to be a distraction for me getting or doing what it is I need to do for myself? These are really serious questions that I really think that we should ponder, that we should ask ourselves. Because in the emotional interference, if you get caught up, you will stay caught up. And it becomes a cycle of you helping others without even helping yourself out of a sense of empathy and loyalty to be a part of the cause when you don't even know why you're doing what you're doing. And it becomes such a rhythm of your life that you stay stuck in the level that you are. And you do enough just to be able to make it through to get to another situation. that you are projecting your help as if that's the right thing to do. You know, I worked in the medical field for some time, and when I worked in that field, I saw a lot of people that were going through the motions of helping other people and not dealing with their own stuff. And of course, I'm not saying all health information or people are like that because, I mean, my goodness, I'm so grateful for all of those that continue to take care of us, that continue to work towards helping us be better or have more. It's necessary and it's such a call of life to have that burden on yourself that you want to help people get better that are not in a position that are healthier. But I absolutely have seen many people go through the motions of going to work to escape their own life, their own trauma, their own identity in order to make them feel better about dealing with their own stuff and then that come home and don't deal with it at all. I mean, it's absolutely wonderful for me to deal with any of the doctors that I've dealt with. But I know that my focus has been intentional to where any diagnosis, any information that I've received, I know that it's facts that I will come home and figure out the faith that I need in order to overcome those facts because of who I am and whose I am. But as we get stuck in our emotions, as we get stuck in how we think and feel about things, we will stay stuck. And at this rate in time where we are having so much division in our country and so many reports from social media as to how to be and how to look and what equates happiness or what equates success, If you absolutely don't know who you are, you will always be leaning on your soul or the intellect and the feelings that you have in order for you to establish what your identity is in this crazy world. And how does that actually serve you? And how does it serve those that you love? I think it's important for us to really just take a time out. and start taking well days instead of sick days and really start searching our heart and searching why we do what we do and really tapping into the identity of who we are in God and how he created us. Because once you know who you are, you may not have all the answers of how things are supposed to work. But you're on the right path to continue to learn and to explore what needs to happen next for you and for others. You know, the best thing I like about being objective is that you're able to take yourself out of a situation and look at the beginning and the end of what's going on and find what you need to do next. And I know sometimes I get criticized for being so logical, you know, that it's just not that easy, Tara Lynn. You just can't be so logical about it. There are really emotions and feelings, and I absolutely admit maybe I am a little bit too logical. But I will tell you as I get more and more objective, I'm able to see more than you can even imagine about not just me, but how my behavior affects others in any situation. Best analogy I think I've heard is that let's say you're in a building structure and you are on the 33rd floor. When you are on the 33rd floor, you can see everything that concerns you as far as every floor below you. If you're looking at a window in a street, you can actually see a certain distance out of the window to the left and a certain distance out to the window on the right. And so this view is absolutely different than the view that you have on the second floor. You see more. You understand more. You have an understanding of the reach that's available on the 33rd floor. Well, imagine if you went to the... How much more would you be able to see and be able to know based on where you are looking out of the windows? And what if you went to the 276th floor? What are you able to see then? Are you able to see so far as to how people enter the city or the street? Are you able to see the other buildings that are out there that actually are in relation to where you are now? The better your objectivity, the more you'll be able to consider about what you're looking at, what you're experiencing, what you know to believe, and the truth of what's going on around you. So we have to get really, really good about being objective and taking a look above where we are to be able to see the ins and outs and how it affects us. That takes us out of emotion. There's enough logic in that statement that I just made for you to add the logic in with the emotion because you know your identity and make the best decision of what you need for yourself to move forward. We complicate things so much when we are subjective in situations. When we start looking at how it makes me feel or what I think about it. Emotions and your thought process only are temporary things because when you have the added information to expand on what you know and how you feel, it changes. And that's one of the things why I love knowledge so much. Because the more that I know, the more objective I'm able to become and the more information I have in order to create a different scenario than what it is that I'm looking at, what I'm looking for, what I'm growing to, and how I'm able to be used by God here on this earth. I love it all so much and I love that I attempt to continue to teach my children and those that I love around me that not only does what you do affect you, it affects everybody else around you. Because if we think about how God looks at it and him being objective to see everything that goes on, he also sees the interplays of what our behavior is and how he can put the pieces together for us to be able to know, see, and understand what needs to happen next. And he's also able to work things out for our good. Emotional interference has to stop. It has to become to where our spirit really does reign and our relationship with God is first and that we have control over our soul, over what we do, our intellect, our feelings, and understanding the gravity that they can make and the destruction that they can be that interferes with our body and where we go and what we do. Now, these, of course, are my opinions. And there's so many scriptures that actually speak to what it is that I'm talking about in the Word of God. One is Romans 12, 1 and 2. And I know that I usually say this, but let me say it again. When you're looking at the Word of God, what you want to be careful of is looking at All of the different versions of the Bible and knowing and understanding what's being said to you. I mean, there's many versions that I use. There's the New King James Version, which is really a different font and text as to how they talked back then. But for understanding, I love the Message Bible. I love the Passion Translation. Get whatever version that you need in order for you to get an understanding. And as you study the word of God, pray and ask for understanding so that you can allow the scriptures to come off of the pages and into your spirit to help you live a life that's authentic as to what God would have you to do. There are lots of scriptures that talk about the wisdom of what you want. If you can ask for wisdom, you'll be able to receive it. Now, of course, I'm talking to those of you that have been that commitment to be a believer. If you are a person that has not decided to be a follower of God, that you don't want to have anything with Jesus, then don't read the Bible because it's not really for you. This is for those that absolutely have decided that they want to take the scriptures and turn them into disciples. laws or mantras that they can read and understand and apply it to their heart. You know, one of my favorite is in Proverbs chapter three, verse five, where the Lord tells us to trust in the Lord completely and not to rely on my own opinions. Now, although I'm sharing my opinion with you, I don't rely on my own opinion to be the first and the final solution to everything that I'm talking about. I have a relationship with God that I'm praying and believing and listening to be able to hear what God would have me to do next. There's so many scriptures in the Bible that you can reflect on, that you can know and understand what you need to do. There's even a book in the Bible called Ephesians that actually talks about your stature, your posture with God and how he will protect you. There's the book of James that talks to you about how your character should be when you're dealing with other believers, others that believe like you do, how all of the trials and the tests that you go through, it means that it's working out its perfect faith in you. There's so much that I can say. But what I really, really just want you to hear is knowing and understanding that as a tripart being, you have a responsibility. And the responsibility is to take all the information that you see. Test it and prove it and pray about it before the Lord in order for him to give you the information and the next steps that you need in order for you to have this absolute wonderful life that's available for you. Emotional interference is just that. It's interfering. Interfering with who you are. Interfering with where you're going. And it keeps you stuck in a position. all based on your emotions that continue to change and your perception of what it is that you truly believe. I'm believing the best for you. I'm so grateful for all of the different countries that continue to share and hold on to these words. These words, these ideas that continue to give you just nuggets of reminding you of what resilience is and how you're created and that your story really does matter. I hope that you found it valuable for me just to remind you of how you're created. And I hope you believe how special you are. That the way you think, the way you feel, just how God created you is so unique. And how much it is that he loves you and he wants to use you in this world. I told you it was a little bit different than what we usually talk about. But so necessary. Because I am struggling with watching people struggle. my heart's cry is for them to have an understanding of who they authentically are and how good God is and that all of the goodness in him does not include them feeling scared, unsafe, unworthy. All of those things are not of God. And so it's important for them to be reminded, to be reassured, that God never changes and that he's faithful to do what he says in his word. And if you can hold on to that and believe that no matter what goes on, God is going to remain the same. Not only will you be able to deal with whatever you need to deal with from whatever view you're looking at things, but you're empowered for more that he will never leave you and he will always be there in order for you to tap in regardless of what time and what's going on. Thanks so much for listening. Until next time. Thanks for joining me on the Resilient Living Podcast. If something you heard today encouraged you, inspired you, or made you think, share it with a friend. Don't forget to follow the show and leave a review. It helps others discover the message of resilience that we're building together. Until next time, keep showing up strong and remember your story matters.